Are You Tuned In?

 

 

radio Are You Tuned In?

Have you ever noticed yourself being the worst possible version of you? I have done a lot of noticing what I am noticing lately. Let me share a story with you. I had been waiting for my new eye glasses to come in. Last week the frames arrived and they were broken and had to be returned to the factory.  Yesterday they called and said here they are. I had gotten a new prescription and now it was several weeks and I am really annoyed because I can’t see very well out of my old glasses. The person who had previously waited on me had given me the cost. A new gentleman rang it up and it was $200 more. Needless to say I was upset and told him so.  But I could see how unfriendly, nasty I was being. I asked myself who do I want to be? If it all worked out perfectly what would that person do? Well I changed my attitude and inquired how long he had worked there and changed the energy of the experience. The manager came over and reduced the cost to the original price I was quoted.

Fast forward a few hours and I picked up the mail. I had been waiting for some checks, actual refunds from my airline travel insurance. When mom got sick and I had to change my reservations. The airline charged me additional money and I wanted to be reimbursed, isn’t that why you buy trip insurance. Well I did not get what I thought I deserved. I went into a tail spin. When I get upset, my first response is food, drown my feelings in vast quantities of food even if it healthy and good for you.

After I calmed down a few hours later. I knew there was something I needed to look at. I was so mad at myself, beating myself up for eating and my “unskilled behavior today.” Through my mindfulness practices I noticed twice today the same core message showed up.  “Life is hard, you have to fight for everything, the world is not to be trusted. ” I knew I did not want these messages running my life anymore so I dug in.  So I started tracing it back to some real old stories about deserving easy and effortless. (Here is part of my inner dialogue, maybe you can relate)

“I can’t believe this is happening again. I am so sick and tired of this experience. Everyone else seems to have it easy. They say they want something and it miraculously appears, happens. They are lucky. I have never been lucky. I must have done something really bad to have this repeatedly be my path.”

I have been blessed with some wonderful coaches and I stay in a container of success; study people I admire,  read books, listen to positive tapes, I have a cadre of tools. This one comes from Joe Vitale, The Attractor Factor on  page 127. To clear old messages and beliefs he suggests this practice:

Dear Spirit please locate the origins of the feelings and thoughts you want to release. Write them down. Take each and every level, layer and area analyze resolve it perfectly in God’s truth… Come forward in time healing every incident based upon the foundation of the first…until I am at present filled with the light and the truth, Gods’ peace and love, forgiveness of myself…With total forgiveness and unconditional love I delete the old from my DNA, release it and now let it go…I feel and fill in the blank ( I am attracting into my life calm, peace, riches that will make my life easier and allow me to expand into a greater version of myself doing work I love in the world. I am a vibrational match for easy and effortless.) I allow every …problem and inappropriate behavior based on the old feelings to quickly disappear. Thank you Spirit for coming to my aid and attain the full measure of my creation. THANK YOU.

Are you tuned in?  What messages are running your life? Please share how you clear limiting beliefs.

How Do You Create A Bold Vision For Success in 2015?

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How do you create a bold vision for success?

 

There are three steps to creating a bold vision for success.

1. Clarify your intentions

Ask yourself a series of questions.  Write the answers in your journal.

What major indulgence are you willing to experience in 2015?
What would you like to evolve most about yourself in 2015?
How would you like to make a difference in the world?
What would you like to be your biggest triumph in 2015?
What would you be most happy completing in 2015?
What advice would you give yourself?
What is the most loving service you can imagine in 2015?
What compliment would you like to receive?
What is the grandest adventure you can imagine?
What would you like to experience more of in 2015?
What would you like to explore or create in 2015?
What makes your heart sing?

2.Imagine  yourself one year from today.

What does your life like look? What does it feel like? Who are you if you have been successful? Imagine you are having coffee with an old friend and you are telling her about your year. Write your vision including as many details, feeling, and experiences as if they all came true.  Oh Mary let me share what an exiting year I had.  I published The Creative Activist in June. What a thrill it was to see the numbers from Amazon each week as they climbed to the top of the charts. I had a number one best seller in Personal Growth and Leadership category.  The launch party was so much fun. The DJ I hired played all my favorite songs, Celebrate, Let it Go, Climb. I got to dance with my granddaughters and Ali brought the baby. We got some great family photos to send to mom.

3. Create a vision board.

What is a Vision Board?

A vision board (also called a Treasure Map or Dream Board) is typically a poster board on which you paste or collage images and words from magazines, cards or Pinterest that inspire you. The theory is that you surround yourself with images of what you want to have in your life or images of who you want to become. They are really simple to do and very powerful.

There are two types of vision boards. The first is for opening and allowing and the other is when you know what you want to manifest. I have been doing both types for many years.

When I went through a deep depression in my mid-thirties I could not see any way out. I did not know what joy and happiness could look like so I collected images of pictures that made me smile. I put them in a book and I spent time every day looking at them and it freed my mind to consider something new and different. I eventually came to the other side. Before I ever thought of interviewing over 120 leaders around the country and becoming a speaker and a radio show host I created a vision board of Oprah and other influential leaders I admired like Eve Ensler who wrote the Vagina Monologue and started a movement. I put this in my office and looked at it all the time.                         vision board

In 2013, I decided it was time to release 50 pounds and get active and I made a specific board that had images of me at a thinner weight that I put on the fridge and one with images and words such as “it is safe to lose weight” in the bathroom where I could see it all the time. Since then I have lost 60 pounds.

Last year I created a vision to write The Creative Activist: One Person Can Make A Difference. I will have the first draft finished by Dec. 31st, 2014. Having a powerful vision, written and visual, keeps me motivated and inspired when I hit “road blocks”. We all have days like that but looking at my vision board on Pinterest just makes me smile. It reminds me who I am serving, my work matters and I can contribute to making the world a better place.

Supplies for Creating a Vision Board:

Poster board

Manila envelopes to collect materials

Scissors

Glue sticks, rubber cement or fabric glue Markers, gel pens, glitter pens

Photographs of you

A big stack of different magazines as well as different kinds of paper: post cards, gift wrap, stamps, maps, calendars

The Seven Steps of Creating a Vision Board:

Step 1: Go through your magazines and pull out pictures, words or headlines that strike your fancy. Have fun with it. Don’t censure yourself. If an image or word appeals just tear it out. I know many people like to use a scissors, but ripping is important to the experience. It increases your creativity, imagination and intuition. You can trim them later.

Step 2: Go through the images and see if any themes emerge. I was working with a client and she was amazed that what began as a general” I don’t know what I want to do with my career”… blossomed into something very specific based on the images she choose. It actually brought her clarity.

Step 3: Eliminate any images that no longer feel right.

Step 4: Glue everything onto the board. You can add writing, stickers, glitter or other materials.

Step 5. Title it

Step 6: Hang your vision board in a place where you will see it often.

Step 7. Spend time looking at it and journal about your experience. What feelings and thoughts have come to the surface? What action steps or strategies have emerged from the images?

If a traditional vision board does not resonate try these options.

Mandala

Mandala is the Sanskrit word for magic circle. Throughout history it has been part of spiritual and religious practices from Buddhist monks to Native American medicine men. Draw a circle within a circle. In the smaller inner circle put a picture of you as your most happy and radiant self and fill in the images in the larger circle what you want. Sometimes I place a spiritual icon or a peaceful image such as a lotus flower in the center.

Pinterest

Over the last few years I dove deep into Pinterest. I have boards about confidence, success, gratitude and forgiveness.I just finished creating a three year Vision Board. They never fail to inspire me and put a smile on my face. http://www.pinterest.com/dazzlingdivarae/

 

What is your bold vision of success in 2015?actions

 

Tags: vision boards, personal growth, creativity, success

 

 

 

 

I Am A Woman Who Matters

I Am A Woman Who Matters                                                                            you matter

 

I am a woman who matters I change the world.

Stand in my magnificence and powerful dreams

Connected to Source, dwell in faith, compassion and peace

Love and accept myself and the truth of my being.

I am perfect, whole and complete.

 

I am divine love expressing itself through life

Reaching out and letting family and friends know I care

Write thank you notes and words of appreciation

Hugs, a pat on the back and a compassionate ear

I put a smile on my face and a smile in my heart.

Showing you that you matter.

 

 

I am a woman that matters

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I love to   explore different points of view.

Minimize differences and discord with you.

Reach for consensus and harmony,

I clearly respect boundaries and priorities

What I know for sure

We all want to be seen, understood and heard.

 

I nurture my body with nutritious whole live food.

Balance my time with rest, relaxation and renewal.

I am flexible and strong, healthy and whole

Determined and resilient I walk 10000 steps proud and tall.

Dress with a bit of pizzas, glitter and glitz.

Love my curves .Love my laugh lines.

Love my self.

 

I meditate, pray and journal daily.

Take a walk in nature and tranquility.

Read words of world wisdom traditions

Centered in silence listening deeply to God

Daring greatly listening to the call

Do something brave every day

Give thanks for my bounty and blessings.

 

As a woman who matters I improve every situation and vision the best.

Disengage the voice of I can’t, not good enough

Staying fully present

Patiently look to repattern

Raise my vibration with a new life enhancing vision of health, happiness, wealth and peace.

Believe in the power of faith and love to create miracles now.

 

Clear clutter from home and heart.

Keep my finances in order.

A gratitude journal details the gifts of beauty, love, time, energy and attention

Conscious the universe is conspiring for my success

A celebration of noted wins and action steps.

 

I embrace my inner child, a creative channel                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              you matter art project

Make regular time to play, write and explore

Indulge in movies, theater and adventure

Laughter and song and natural beauty

Spend time with children in imaginative wonder

Fully awake to scents, texture, taste and color

Express the dance of life, full spectrum living

 

A woman who matters answers the call of the soul

Deep awareness of the sacredness of it all

Love ourselves as we love our friends

Rest in kindness, acceptance and compassion

Practice forgiveness, you did nothing wrong

Wrap yourself in love, the source of happiness and pleasure

 

Visibly, boldly share my divinely inspired vision

Ideas, imagination and creativity flow

A magnet for right people, resources and opportunities to collaborate

I surrender to unlimited abundance and watch my business grow.

Richly rewarded for work that I do.

 

As a woman who matters I make the world change.

See the beauty and Divine nature of your heart.                                                                                                                                                                             

Illuminate, ignite and turn your dreams into gold.

Bring out the unique songs of your soul.

So you stand in your brilliance, power and purpose.

 

As a woman who matters I know the depths of my soul.

That nurtures, blossoms and ever unfolds.

Intuitive awareness, creative expression, encouraging awakening

Clearly committed to a loving, peaceful and respectful world.

I am a woman who matters and changes the world.

I am a woman who matters.

 

I am Rae Luskin a Creative Activist, a woman who matters. To find out more go to www.thewinningadventure.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sandra Yancey Succeeding Inspite of Everything

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According to Sandra Yancey the Founder and CEO of eWomen Network Inc, International Award Winning Entrepreneur, Philanthropist, Movie Producer and a Bestselling Author. “I didn’t realize that I was poor and that my mother was on welfare. I didn’t know  that these two very handsome men in suits that would come to the house once a month with  groceries were from the church, Saint Vincent De Paul, bringing food to the poor.”

Sandra may not have had lots of money but she had lots of love and support from her mom. Her mom inspired her to become a leader. My mom said “Sandra, go out and set yourself on fire. Everyone will come and watch you burn.” And I never really understood what that meant until later in life. We are attracted to those people that are bright, those people that have that glow, that essence, that energy, that vibration that is a quality of a great leader. People are drawn to you. You have to have followers to be a leader.

I first met Sandra at the Lisa Sassevich, Event Profit Secrets. I was so impressed with Sandra’s commitment to serving others is the eWomenNetwork Foundation, a 501(c) (3) non-profit, which supports the financial and emotional health of women and children in need I donated 100 Art From My Heart books and became a member of eWomen. I had the opportunity to interview her for The Winning Adventure.                                                                                                                                                                                                         303

How did you get started in leadership?

My family  wanted me to go to college. So I went on my own, I paid my own way; I worked and was the first one in the family to graduate with a college degree.  And then I went after my advanced degrees. I worked my way up the corporate ladder from the clerical ranks to running a department.

After 13 years of being in corporate America, I moved from the “Little ‘D’” to the “Big ‘D’” – Dayton, Ohio to Dallas, Texas. At that point in time, I started a solo consulting practice, which is when I got my first real taste of what it meant to be really successful. I was making great money but I was just miserable, I mean I was always on a plane and my children were little that’s the time in my life where I wanted to be home– that’s part of the reason why I left Corporate America.

What inspired eWomen?

I started going to networking groups, which were predominately male and I had my “Aha!” moment about the “good old boys” network – I mean this in a good way! These groups focused on best practices, leads, strategic introductions, and me being a female and in the minority felt welcome, but not quite “allowed” to play the game.

I went to a few women’s groups, but they just didn’t compare. I said, “Where are all the women that want to build million-dollar businesses?”  I thought something’s missing that what we need is a hybrid, the integration of the focus and the strategy that I witnessed with the men’s group but in a way that was more comfortable for women, that’s relational.  I wanted to create a system and structure that allowed women to be very clear about monetizing their goals.

We’ve grown from being simply a networking organization to a success system. We have the richest online portal of resources from women subject matter experts that can be accessed at any time, by anyone.

What are the qualities of a great leader?

  What really differentiates great leaders is the secret sauce, relationships. It doesn’t matter if you’ve got a really great idea, a great business model,  fancy website with all the bells and whistles today and you have a four color business card and you’ve got the perfect tool or the opportunity that can change the planet.  I mean if you aren’t good at building relationships you really do have nothing, I mean at some level I think we’re all in the relationship business no matter what product or service we sell. 

 

Do you have any secrets for people just starting out?

  Don’t fake it till you make it. I did that and I think that was part of  my early struggles and almost my demise. If someone asked how are you” oh I’m fine, yet I wasn’t sleeping and the doors were to about to close. When you do that you’re being an impostor.  When you’re being an impostor you’re not living your authentic self and I don’t think that you can really create sustainable happiness and success when you are faking it. It doesn’t mean you have to cry and tell everybody your problems but it doesn’t mean you need to tell the people that can help you most that everything is fine because then they can’t help you.

 I think that multitasking for women is the kiss of death.  We think that nobody else can do it quite like us, so we micromanage and struggle.  And that’s for everything, from your business to how you fold your towels. The truth of the matter is if your customer has a great experience does it really have to be done by you? Every towel can be folded slightly different, none of the corners match, but my guess is the customer, which is your family, would be more thrilled to know that the towels are available and they’re clean rather  than the frustration and pain you go through knocking yourself out because you feel like you’ve got to do it all.

What legacy would you like to leave?

I want my legacy to be that she talked her talk. She provided access to others to be able to experience and live their purpose, their greatness and their contribution. I want to be missed. The greatest gift for me, would be that someone would say I’m better as a result of knowing her.

What legacy would you like to leave? Would love to hear from you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Creative Leaders Spark Change Around The World

Creative Leaders spark change around the world.

In my last blog I introduced the concept of the creative edge. It is the way you live your life. It is the way you parent, solve problems, and make a difference in the world. It is being resilient, inventive and original. It is supporting your unique visions and going to the creative edge. The  qualities of a  creative leader are:  Courageous, Resourceful, Enthusiastic, Authentic, Tenacious, Inspired, Vibrant, Empowered.

Meet Jonny Imerman

 

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Jonny Imerman was a typical college graduate, working in real estate during the day and attending classes at night for his MBA. Jonny played basketball, worked out at the gym and hung out with friends. Then at 26 his life changed.

 Jonny was diagnosed with testicular cancer. After doctors surgically removed one of his testicles, he underwent five months of chemotherapy and was declared clear. But almost a year later, four tumors popped up again near his spine which required another surgery, an 11-inch incision and three months of recovery.

Jonny has been cancer-free since 2003. He left the business world behind and began Imerman Angels a not-for-profit organization that connects a person fighting with cancer with someone who has survived and beaten the same type of cancer. The mission is to provide a big brother or sister to help inspire, provide tips and knowledge. They have created a global healing community of over 4000 survivors and 1500 caregivers . The service is available to anyone touched by any type of cancer living in 60 countries around the world for free.

Rae: What inspired you to create Imerman Angels?

Jonny: “I had made a vow to myself during the time that I was battling cancer. I had looked at others in the oncology clinic and realized that I was different. Each day, my mom was there.She was there every step of the way.  My room was filled with family and friends. As I walked down the hall with my chemotherapy IV-pole on the way to the bathroom, I saw other people fighting cancer alone. They were lying in bed, motionless, watching television or staring in space.  I knew this was not right. It really upset me. So I started chatting with other cancer patients.I’ d say hi my name is Jonny. We could talk about our emotions, our experiences, things our family couldn’t get like sucking on lemonheads to get the metallic taste out of our mouth.

“I wondered: “What if every cancer fighter could talk to a cancer survivor who was uniquely familiar with their experience; who not only had beaten the same type and stage of cancer, but who also was the same age and gender as the fighter?” The cancer survivor would be an angel- walking, living proof that the fighter could win, too. What an amazing connection. “

“Let’s say a 19 year old girl at University of Richmond get’s sick, she is alone and afraid. She can go on facebook and talk to an angel  to find out know what is going to happen to her,” how sick will I get, will I be able to have kids?   Also cancer caregivers, family members and friends also benefit from one-on-one connections with other caregivers and survivors.

 Rae: How would you define courage?

 Jonny:  Courage, when you reach a certain point where you absolutely have no fear of failure.You don’t listen to other people saying others have had that idea. Ultimately courage is listening to your own voice and believing that you can do it.

Rae:     What are the qualities of a great leader?catalyst of change

Johnny:   I think a great leader, number one is focused on a mission. A great leader believes in the service for the product that they’re delivering.  They believe in their soul, every part of their body, everything about them screams that they get it. They’re so fired up to build it and that’s what creates a movement. They have unwavering passion.

Rae: What is your definition of success?

 Jonny:” For me it’s really simply we’re changing lives, we’re improving lives in cancer, we’re making a difference.  I think the most successful people in the world are the people in social enterprise that are building a for-profit company that has a social component that makes the world a better place or nonprofits that simply make the world a better place. 

Rae: What continues to drive you?

Jonny: I love people. Everyone’s got a story. Everyone has been through challenges. I always say that if you talk to somebody for five minutes there’s always something that you don’t know that they do. You can learn from their experiences.

Rae:  What would you say to somebody who said they don’t know how make a difference but would like to?

 Johnny:    I think what you need to do is to dig deep and you think about what your family  has been touched by. It could be diabetes or cancer. Get in touch with one of the groups  that serve people in those arenas and start volunteering.  Be part of the solution.


If you want to be part of the solution visit www.ImermanAngels.org for information on how to support or join the network of cancer fighters, survivors and caregivers.

Cancer used to be said in a whisper. Now we have football players marching down the field in pink. How did that happen? We have people sharing their story or their families challenges. We have  creative leaders like Jonny Imerman  who brought to light the problems young adults face with cancer and did something about it .

If you know a Creative Leader who I should feature…please write me.