TEDx: It’s On Us

TEDx: It’s On Us

A week ago I was at an Engaging Speakers conference and someone mentioned that Naperville was looking for speakers for their TEDx talks. I immediately took action. I looked it up on google. I opened the application and called to ask about a deadline. They said just apply it may be for next year and they still have one or two spots open now.

Then it hit me, are you crazy. It is the wrong time, The Creative Activist isn’t’ done….the fear took over and old coping patterns returned with a vengeance. There is not enough food in my house to numb the feelings of terror and overwhelm. Shopping on HSN and QVC did not alleviate the “not good enough” messages that were looping in my head.

I talked with my coach and she that is good your recognizing your patterns. So I began to write and write and write. I have 39 pages scribbled in in my journal. I keep waking up at three AM with another download. My friend Sarah came over and she did some energy work on me. The lump in my throat, the hairball from hell, needed to move or there was no way I was going to be able to do this three minute video application. The burning in my throat and chest eased but it was still tight so she suggested start talking and I did. I felt better.  Expressing my truth, sharing it with another person is healing. Creative expression in whatever form is powerful medicine.

Then I asked, Kathy Eldon, of Creative Visions http://www.creativevisions.org/ who has given two TED talks what she thought. She said tell your story….they are looking for a heroes’ journey. So more panic, more food, numb myself with television.  I have shared my story of healing from childhood sexual abuse in numerous places but not on a big stage. I worry about how much I divulge. There seem to be two philosophies among speakers; just mention you were abused or paint a picture and experience.  Will my art work distract people or help them understand? It is so much easier to talk about the people I interviewed then myself.002

So I went back to my three year mission and vision statement that I wrote a few months ago.” Last month Hillary Clinton introduced me at the Clinton Foundation and I shared the “best creative expression practices “including Bajalia jewelry http://bajalia.com which employs women in India and Pakistan only if they agree to educate their daughters. One man came up to me afterwards and said I am going to change my business model. I can see the changes that are happening in churches and synagogues. They are creating safe spaces for people to share their stories of abuse or being an abuser. It is a community concern now not just a family problem. I have to tell you I had the biggest grin on my face last October when I saw football players’ wearing purple for domestic violence awareness. We are blessed to be living in a time where it is freely talked about and so many are committed to making a loving, peaceful, respectful and safe world for women and children. This or something better.”

Child abuse and domestic violence are all over the news recently. In a speech yesterday, the president announced “It’s on Us,” a nationwide public service campaign aimed at urging young people to do more to prevent campus sexual assaults. Mr. Obama called for a “fundamental shift in our culture” in the way women are treated and in the response to victims of sexual assault.

Commissioner Goodell said that effective immediately any N.F.L. employee or player who is found to have engaged in assault, battery, domestic violence or sexual assault will be suspended without pay for six games for a first offense. Second-time offenders will be banished from the league for at least one year.

It is time for me to step forward on whatever stage I command (hopefully TEDx: It’s On Us) and talk about the things that matter to me; creative expression and service which nurture self-esteem, resilience and healing.  We need to create more engaging education and awareness campaigns. We need to bring together community leaders, service providers, creatives and business people to create new initiatives that spark conversation.  Develop best practices that encourage safe, loving supporting communities where it is OUR collective problem. It is time for football players to wear blue (child abuse awareness) and purple (domestic violence awareness) and when someone asks what does this mean. What does this have to do with me?  We will have the answers. IT’S ON US.

Here is my first take for the application I would really like your feedback and create a talk that speaks to you where I can really be of service. Thanks so much

 

Creative Activists Change The Future

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Creative Activists Change The Future

We need leaders who can change the future. In these tumultuous times we need new  conversations that shift paradigms. We need new strategies and original ideas that  create  awareness and education about the need for social change and social justice.We are stepping into a new age of creative activism where we lead from a deep well of shared feelings, values and a global perspective. We are all connected.  It is no longer ok to ignore poverty, homelessness,mental illness, domestic violence or child sexual abuse and say it is  their problem. It is our problem. There is a cause and effect for everyone of these issues.

Imagine the cashier at the grocery store is scared her partner is going to kill her. Her mind is not on her work and she takes twice as long to do her job which affects your ability to get to work on time. Now your stressed. Her kids who have witnessed the abuse are in school and interacting with your kids. They may be biting or aggressive. They need counseling which they can’t afford so it costs you the tax payer more money to meet their needs. It is OUR problem.

What does the creative  activist look like?

  1. Center their lives around their passion and purpose
  2. They turn their challenges into opportunities
  3. They are committed to something beyond themselves
  4. They are courageous. They feel the fear and do it anyway.
  5. They are a role model, a mentor and a volunteer
  6. They practice compassionate listening
  7. Resilient and tenacious
  8. Live in integrity where their thoughts and actions are in alignment with their values
  9. They help, motivate and inspire others to reach their dreams
  10. Use their gifts and talents to make a difference, pay it forward, be of service
  11. They tap into their intuition
  12. They are appreciative and grateful
  13. Recognize the need for diversity
  14. They are authentic and honest
  15. They encourage originality, inventiveness and out of the box thinking to nurture self esteem and social change
  16. They build capacity and skills in other people
  17. They ask for help
  18. They clearly articulate their heartfelt vision
  19. They are curious, lifelong learners and ask what if questions                                                       earth-hug
  20.  See failure as a  teachable moment, just feedback
  21. They nurture their body, mind and spirit ( renewal and restoration)
  22. They are compassionate and empathetic
  23. They are optimistic: see things in color, variations and possibilities
  24. They encourage collaborations
  25. They live their legacy now

This is a call to action. Creative activists change the future. What is your big bold dream for change? Mine is to see football players wearing blue and purple for child abuse and domestic violence awareness. Twenty years ago who would have believed they would be sporting pink for breast cancer?  I would love to hear from you.

I Am A Woman Who Matters

I Am A Woman Who Matters                                                                            you matter

 

I am a woman who matters I change the world.

Stand in my magnificence and powerful dreams

Connected to Source, dwell in faith, compassion and peace

Love and accept myself and the truth of my being.

I am perfect, whole and complete.

 

I am divine love expressing itself through life

Reaching out and letting family and friends know I care

Write thank you notes and words of appreciation

Hugs, a pat on the back and a compassionate ear

I put a smile on my face and a smile in my heart.

Showing you that you matter.

 

 

I am a woman that matters

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I love to   explore different points of view.

Minimize differences and discord with you.

Reach for consensus and harmony,

I clearly respect boundaries and priorities

What I know for sure

We all want to be seen, understood and heard.

 

I nurture my body with nutritious whole live food.

Balance my time with rest, relaxation and renewal.

I am flexible and strong, healthy and whole

Determined and resilient I walk 10000 steps proud and tall.

Dress with a bit of pizzas, glitter and glitz.

Love my curves .Love my laugh lines.

Love my self.

 

I meditate, pray and journal daily.

Take a walk in nature and tranquility.

Read words of world wisdom traditions

Centered in silence listening deeply to God

Daring greatly listening to the call

Do something brave every day

Give thanks for my bounty and blessings.

 

As a woman who matters I improve every situation and vision the best.

Disengage the voice of I can’t, not good enough

Staying fully present

Patiently look to repattern

Raise my vibration with a new life enhancing vision of health, happiness, wealth and peace.

Believe in the power of faith and love to create miracles now.

 

Clear clutter from home and heart.

Keep my finances in order.

A gratitude journal details the gifts of beauty, love, time, energy and attention

Conscious the universe is conspiring for my success

A celebration of noted wins and action steps.

 

I embrace my inner child, a creative channel                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              you matter art project

Make regular time to play, write and explore

Indulge in movies, theater and adventure

Laughter and song and natural beauty

Spend time with children in imaginative wonder

Fully awake to scents, texture, taste and color

Express the dance of life, full spectrum living

 

A woman who matters answers the call of the soul

Deep awareness of the sacredness of it all

Love ourselves as we love our friends

Rest in kindness, acceptance and compassion

Practice forgiveness, you did nothing wrong

Wrap yourself in love, the source of happiness and pleasure

 

Visibly, boldly share my divinely inspired vision

Ideas, imagination and creativity flow

A magnet for right people, resources and opportunities to collaborate

I surrender to unlimited abundance and watch my business grow.

Richly rewarded for work that I do.

 

As a woman who matters I make the world change.

See the beauty and Divine nature of your heart.                                                                                                                                                                             

Illuminate, ignite and turn your dreams into gold.

Bring out the unique songs of your soul.

So you stand in your brilliance, power and purpose.

 

As a woman who matters I know the depths of my soul.

That nurtures, blossoms and ever unfolds.

Intuitive awareness, creative expression, encouraging awakening

Clearly committed to a loving, peaceful and respectful world.

I am a woman who matters and changes the world.

I am a woman who matters.

 

I am Rae Luskin a Creative Activist, a woman who matters. To find out more go to www.thewinningadventure.com

 

 

 

 

 

 

Walk About Change: Create A Positive Mindset

Walk About Change: Create A Positive Mindset

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It is so easy to walk around and notice what is wrong in the world. It is so easy to see only the negative when the news reports 99.9% of the time our inhumanity to man, violence, corruption. We are skilled at pointing out what is wrong with our friends and family, the neighbors, our coworkers or our boss. We all know someone who spends all their time complaining about the country, the politicians, yet they offer no solutions.

It takes practice to see the positive in people. It takes practice to see opportunities in challenges. It takes practice to turn negativity into a positive mindset. I was a person who believed the glass was half empty, no really it was empty. I was the victim of people and circumstances and I hated living that way. So I made a decision to change that.

Here are three of my favorite tools to begin the journey.

  1. Walk about change. Take a walk down your block bring a camera or a notebook with you. When you walk one way look for everything wrong. Record it. Maybe a couple kids spray painted a wall or the neighbor never mows the lawn. People are hanging out on their porches and watching my every move. Now turn around and walk back looking for everything that is right. The neighbors know who I am and watch out for me. The kids are so talented with the graffiti I wish I could find a way to use their artistry. Maybe the neighbor’s mower is broken and I could lend them mine. What story are you telling yourself?
  2. Turn around challenge. Find something you think is ugly  and stare it until you can find something beautiful about it.ugliest dog You can think about a challenge you went through and find out the gifts you received from it. I never could see how being sexually abused could be positive. But it made me the person I am today: an activist, author, speaker and leader.
  3. Write an affirmation. Draw a line down the middle of your paper. On the left write. I see the positive in life on the other side write down oh this is crap or whatever comes up for you. Keep writing I see the positive is life and all your negative thoughts until there aren’t anymore. Then put your affirmation on an index card and put it above your desk, in your car on your mirror and repeat throughout the day.

Negative thinking empowers a problem. It takes us out of peace and harmony with ourselves. It keeps us contracted and stressed. When we look for what is right in the world…we expand. We feel revitalized and alive. When we have a positive mindset we see solutions and contribute to being the change we want to see in the world.

What are some of the tools you use to create a positive mindset?

Creative Leaders Spark Change Around The World

Creative Leaders spark change around the world.

In my last blog I introduced the concept of the creative edge. It is the way you live your life. It is the way you parent, solve problems, and make a difference in the world. It is being resilient, inventive and original. It is supporting your unique visions and going to the creative edge. The  qualities of a  creative leader are:  Courageous, Resourceful, Enthusiastic, Authentic, Tenacious, Inspired, Vibrant, Empowered.

Meet Jonny Imerman

 

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Jonny Imerman was a typical college graduate, working in real estate during the day and attending classes at night for his MBA. Jonny played basketball, worked out at the gym and hung out with friends. Then at 26 his life changed.

 Jonny was diagnosed with testicular cancer. After doctors surgically removed one of his testicles, he underwent five months of chemotherapy and was declared clear. But almost a year later, four tumors popped up again near his spine which required another surgery, an 11-inch incision and three months of recovery.

Jonny has been cancer-free since 2003. He left the business world behind and began Imerman Angels a not-for-profit organization that connects a person fighting with cancer with someone who has survived and beaten the same type of cancer. The mission is to provide a big brother or sister to help inspire, provide tips and knowledge. They have created a global healing community of over 4000 survivors and 1500 caregivers . The service is available to anyone touched by any type of cancer living in 60 countries around the world for free.

Rae: What inspired you to create Imerman Angels?

Jonny: “I had made a vow to myself during the time that I was battling cancer. I had looked at others in the oncology clinic and realized that I was different. Each day, my mom was there.She was there every step of the way.  My room was filled with family and friends. As I walked down the hall with my chemotherapy IV-pole on the way to the bathroom, I saw other people fighting cancer alone. They were lying in bed, motionless, watching television or staring in space.  I knew this was not right. It really upset me. So I started chatting with other cancer patients.I’ d say hi my name is Jonny. We could talk about our emotions, our experiences, things our family couldn’t get like sucking on lemonheads to get the metallic taste out of our mouth.

“I wondered: “What if every cancer fighter could talk to a cancer survivor who was uniquely familiar with their experience; who not only had beaten the same type and stage of cancer, but who also was the same age and gender as the fighter?” The cancer survivor would be an angel- walking, living proof that the fighter could win, too. What an amazing connection. “

“Let’s say a 19 year old girl at University of Richmond get’s sick, she is alone and afraid. She can go on facebook and talk to an angel  to find out know what is going to happen to her,” how sick will I get, will I be able to have kids?   Also cancer caregivers, family members and friends also benefit from one-on-one connections with other caregivers and survivors.

 Rae: How would you define courage?

 Jonny:  Courage, when you reach a certain point where you absolutely have no fear of failure.You don’t listen to other people saying others have had that idea. Ultimately courage is listening to your own voice and believing that you can do it.

Rae:     What are the qualities of a great leader?catalyst of change

Johnny:   I think a great leader, number one is focused on a mission. A great leader believes in the service for the product that they’re delivering.  They believe in their soul, every part of their body, everything about them screams that they get it. They’re so fired up to build it and that’s what creates a movement. They have unwavering passion.

Rae: What is your definition of success?

 Jonny:” For me it’s really simply we’re changing lives, we’re improving lives in cancer, we’re making a difference.  I think the most successful people in the world are the people in social enterprise that are building a for-profit company that has a social component that makes the world a better place or nonprofits that simply make the world a better place. 

Rae: What continues to drive you?

Jonny: I love people. Everyone’s got a story. Everyone has been through challenges. I always say that if you talk to somebody for five minutes there’s always something that you don’t know that they do. You can learn from their experiences.

Rae:  What would you say to somebody who said they don’t know how make a difference but would like to?

 Johnny:    I think what you need to do is to dig deep and you think about what your family  has been touched by. It could be diabetes or cancer. Get in touch with one of the groups  that serve people in those arenas and start volunteering.  Be part of the solution.


If you want to be part of the solution visit www.ImermanAngels.org for information on how to support or join the network of cancer fighters, survivors and caregivers.

Cancer used to be said in a whisper. Now we have football players marching down the field in pink. How did that happen? We have people sharing their story or their families challenges. We have  creative leaders like Jonny Imerman  who brought to light the problems young adults face with cancer and did something about it .

If you know a Creative Leader who I should feature…please write me.